Failing to find the time of your life at university? Many share your feelings.

Students sharing experiences
Two students share their experiences of life at university.

A student named Robert spent most of his first week at university looking at digital networks, viewing updates about peers enjoying evenings out.

"I remained in my room," Robert recalls, depicting those days as the loneliest time of his life.

The people he lived with seldom socialized, and his program didn't seem especially friendly.

Despite putting himself out there by attending trial events for different clubs, he didn't discover people he connected with.

"I started to lose my self-esteem," he says. "I believed others weren't interested to become my friends, or they weren't fond of me."

Digital Platform Contrasts

Originally, Robert wasn't considering of studying at university and received employment offers for post-secondary education.

However he watched his acquaintances having great fun as college students online.

"When you've got to get up for your job during the week at 9:00 and you notice others went out on Wednesday night, you begin believing others have it better," Robert explains.

University Expectations

Television programs and online platforms can idealize the notion of student life.

Many individuals begin university with great anticipations for what they imagine could be the greatest period of their lives.

Certain attendees come to university with "idealistic views," explains a counselling manager.

Study Outcomes

  • In a poll of new students initially, students' biggest concern was fitting in and finding acceptance
  • Further studies by market research agencies, nearly one-fifth of attendees said they were without companions at university
  • Over one-third reported they felt anxious regularly about making friends

Individual Stories

Another student's TikTok feed was filled with content of peers socializing while living together in university housing.

Yet when she relocated from her hometown to university to learn reporting, she found orientation period "daunting" because of the substance involvement it involved.

She abstains from alcohol and had never been clubbing before.

"I did spend much of orientation within my living space," she says. "I merely sensed slightly disconnected."

Emotional Wellbeing Factors

According to recent research of numerous university attendees, nearly one-third reported they had considered withdrawing from studies.

The primary factor was emotional state, accompanied by monetary worries.

"Anxiety about all of these different things is extremely prevalent, and normal," explains a support specialist.

Discovering Answers

With time, Robert, Alisha and Christina eventually adapted and built connections.

Alisha made friends through her course and through TikTok, while another student became more content after being able to relocate with companions.

Helpful Recommendations

Regarding his experience, currently in his mid-twenties and in his last year, it was participating in theater activities and working occasionally that assisted in relationship building.

His recommendation to first-year students finding social interaction difficult is to venture outside your living space and participate in group trial sessions.

"Subsequent to periods of regular attendance, others notice your presence," he mentions, "you become familiar with them, and you start making friends."

Benjamin Pope
Benjamin Pope

A tech strategist with over a decade of experience in digital innovation and startup ecosystems across Europe.